Last night I met this really amazing guy. I was minding my own business when this random 24 year old just grabbed my waist and ignited conversation. I was a bit amazed at his self-confidence that I laughed and told him, "You are such an extrovert". We instantly clicked as personality filled the room and we soon became the focus point amongst the crowd. For a moment I was so in awe at the fact that someone could embrace themselves in such a complete way. It reminded me of how many times I would restrain myself from being who I am, because I did not want people to think I am too different of a person.
I realise, in a fresh way again, that it is okay to be you boo. You cannot look at someone else and sought after their personal makeup. For at some point they have embraced who they are and they have come out of the cacoon of lies and inner deception. So now we find ourselves at the constant crossroads of choosing to either be another generic version of someone else or the true us.
Yesterday I felt this all familiar deep sadness and it overtook me to a point where I felt nauseas and I could not process what was happening in my emotions. Dealing with being an emotional person and killing the pride of restricting that emotion can be terrible wars for people of my nature i.e. ENFP-Ts. One day you are on a high that sets your feet to flight and the next you find yourself crying in the gutters. But what if we embraced ourselves for being the first and the last of who we are? People are dying not knowing who they are. People are dying in a false perception of what they believed all their lives.
My girls, Lauren and Mel, and I went out for dinner on Thursday evening, for our date was long overdue. What encouraged me about this specific night was that we were the most transparent that we have been in a long time. We were sharing about the deep things in our hearts and what we face in life as human beings.
This is what we ought to be living everyday of our lives. We should live in radiant transparency. For we do not have to change the core of who we are for someone - just to please them. That would truly be in vain and very sad.
Firstly, doing so, you lose out on the true you. Secondly, the people around you lose out too, because they don't get to see the authentic treasure in our hearts.
As we reach the end of 2016 today, let us go into the New Year pursuing the true us in every way we can pursue it. Stop lying to yourself, because it is comfortable or this is the way people understand you to be because of the building blocks that were built on ignorance and insecurity.
"I think people are scared to be great. You are great, just open your heart and dig deep"
-Rowyn Coetzee
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Creds to: Monare M for inspiring this blog.
You are such a great person! Go set the world a light with your personality.
Love Ro.
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